The Wardrobe Myth: Do I Really Have to Wear Lingerie?
One of the first questions I hear from women considering a boudoir session is, “Do I have to wear lingerie?” The short answer is no, absolutely not.
Boudoir is not about fitting into a mold. It is about creating an experience that feels true to you. There is no single equation for a boudoir session because every woman is different, and every session is different.
Why I Start With a Pre-Session Consultation
Before we ever step into the studio, I set aside time for a pre-session consultation. This is more than just a quick phone call. It is a chance to connect, talk through your vision, and get a sense of what feels natural for you.
During this conversation, we walk through what I call the vibe breakdown. Do you want your session to feel soft and romantic, bold and dramatic, playful and fun, or deeply powerful? Most women fall somewhere in between, and that is where the magic happens. Once we have figured out the vibe, the wardrobe naturally flows from there.
Boudoir Outfit Ideas Beyond Lingerie
When people think of boudoir, they often picture lace and garters. Lingerie can be beautiful, but it is only one option. If you are wondering what to wear for boudoir photos, think less about rules and more about what makes you feel confident.
Here are some client favorites:
• A cozy oversized sweater with socks
• A silky robe or kimono that moves beautifully on camera
• A favorite bodysuit or form-fitting dress
• Denim shorts with a bralette
• A crisp button-up shirt that carries meaning
• Nothing but a sheet for an implied, timeless look
The best outfits for a boudoir session are the ones that make you feel comfortable, confident, and most importantly, like yourself.
The Client Closet and Special Pieces
I keep a client closet stocked with pieces in different sizes, textures, and styles for you to explore. For some women, the perfect piece is already there. For others, a session might call for something more specific, like a gown, a certain color, or a unique accessory that matches the vibe we have created together.
Sometimes we pull everything from the closet. Other times, clients bring special items that hold meaning, such as a wedding veil, a partner’s shirt, or a vintage piece they have always loved. There is no one-size-fits-all answer, and that is exactly why each session feels so personal.
No Two Sessions Are Alike
Boudoir is about creating an experience that reflects your unique story. Some women want to feel powerful. Others want to reconnect with softness. Some want to simply celebrate themselves in this season of life. Wardrobe is part of that journey, but it is never the focus. The focus is you.
If you have been holding back because you thought you had to wear lingerie, let that idea go. Boudoir is not about following rules. It is about discovering how you want to be seen and allowing yourself to shine.
